LIR 11614 HagalazR

No storm today, so if you're prepping for a transition, you have more time.  Focus on the things (physical, emotional, mental) you definitely want to take with you - strengthen & secure them.  And breathe.

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These last few days, the meaning of HagalazR was slightly different for me than interpreted.  
This week we had a memorial to celebrate the lives of two family members who have died.  One of those we were remembering was my mom.  

I ended up, somehow, as the event coordinator.

And many people had RSVP'd.

In the past, my method of operation tended to be what one could politely call scattered, possibly even frantic.  Kind of like running just to stay in place.  And it usually ended with frayed nerves, tempers and hurt feelings.  Nothing tests communication skills like party prep.

But HagalazR said, "it doesn't have to be like that."  It doesn't have to be a storm of emotion, it doesn't have to be "sound and fury".  It doesn't have to be a huge, traumatic event.  I had my lists; I had my prep schedule.  I knew what I wanted to have done and  I knew what I hoped the final presentation would look like and I knew (though I had to remind myself often) that the final result would not match the "perfect" picture in my head and that was fine!  I even knew that I had to be decisive and not spend half the time looking for approval from others.

I did not need to have a storm of running around and barking orders and little tiffs in the corner.  I just needed to be calm.  To know that in the end, what would be would be.  And, most importantly, to focus on one thing at a time, which is not easy when there a people begging to be helpful.  Wanting to be included?  Asking questions and needing direction and getting in the way.  It is often easier to do than try and describe what to do.  

But, again, instead of making it a production, instead of giving into the whirlwind of energy, I breathed.  I said, just a moment, finished my current thought or project, and then I moved on.

Not to say a little excitement and nerves aren't a part of party prep.  Adrenaline is very useful!  But I much preferred the feeling of accomplishment from yesterday's party - a nice quiet glow, instead of a list of terrors and frustrations.  I am grateful to all the helpers.  I am grateful to me for being part of the solution, and I am so grateful to HagalazR for the reminder that it doesn't need to be a storm.

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LIR 11914  Nothing

No rune.  No advice.  No special focus.  Just breathe.  Be true.  Maybe relax a little.  And I hope you have a great day!

-Lila